Stick!Spank Master Post!
Since it seems I have wrapped up the Stick!Spank Series I decided to put then all in one handy master post! this feels pretty complete…It almost makes me want to make this a book of some sort as a simplified comprehensive spanking guide.
Now moving on to the Stick!Fetish Flyers.
Seriously, this is so cool. You should totally write a guide. I love your posts (especially these) and think they are totally awesome and helpful!
I love this, it’s so beautiful.
I’m always afraid people will see this and think, see, all that misogynistic treatment has broken her down and now she is traumatized and deeply upset. More often than not, the tears are described by subs as a cathartic release, like receiving the news that a loved one will be cured of disease instead of dying. That is the kind of tears that are usually shed in the case of a crying session. She is not upset, she is letting herself go on a tied of emotion, which ebbs and flows in her, and which was brought to the surface by literally stimulating the surface.
The top’s responsibility is not to tell her,”I’m sorry baby, its ok, please don’t cry ”, it is to tell her, “that’s it baby, let it all out, you cry as hard as you need to”
The top’s responsibility is also to keep a look out for the other kind of crying, and they are expected to know the difference, and act accordingly.
That release is so powerful. What’s even more powerful, is the fact that ANYTIME I’m upset, Sir always tells me that it is safe to cry with him. Whether we are in a scene, or I’ve just had a rough day, Sir makes me safe and loved and not ashamed to let my emotions out. I am so grateful for that.